Rebecca Soffer with Dr. Lucy Kalanithi - The Modern Loss Handbook (Ferry Building Store)

Rebecca Soffer
in conversation with Dr. Lucy Kalanithi

The Modern Loss Handbook

An In-Person Event • Book Passage (SF Ferry Building)

Mon., June 20th • 5:00pm PT

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Stay connected to your person, yourself, and the world around you in the aftermath of loss.

Modern Loss is all about eradicating the stigma and awkwardness around grief while also focusing on our capacity for resilience and finding meaning. In this interactive guide, Modern Loss cofounder Rebecca Soffer offers candid, practical, and witty advice for confronting a future without your person, honoring their memory, dealing with trigger days, managing your professional life, and navigating new and existing relationships. You’ll find no worn-out platitudes or empty assurances here. With prompts, creative projects, innovative rituals, therapeutic-based exercises, and more, this is the place to explore the messy, long arc of loss on your own timeline—and without judgment.

Rebecca Soffer is the cofounder of Modern Loss, which offers encouraging, creative, and keeping-it-real content and community addressing the long arc of grief. She also coauthored the book Modern Loss: Candid Conversa­tion about Grief. Beginners Welcome. and is an internationally recognized speaker on loss and resil­ience. Her work has been widely published with outlets including the New York Times, Glamour, Marie Claire, NBC, CNN, and more. She is a Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism alumna and a former producer for the Peabody Award–winning The Colbert Report. Rebecca lives in New York City and the Berkshires in Western Massachusetts with her husband and two children.

Dr. Lucy Kalanithi is a Clinical Associate Professor of Medicine at Stanford University and an advocate for culture change around healthcare value. She is the widow of Dr. Paul Kalanithi, author of the #1 New York Times-bestselling memoir When Breath Becomes Air, which was nominated for the Pulitzer Prize and translated into more than 40 languages, and for which she wrote the epilogue. A graduate of the Yale School of Medicine, the University of California-San Francisco’s Internal Medicine Residency and a postdoctoral fellowship at Stanford’s Clinical Excellence Research Center, Dr. Kalanithi is a Fellow of the American College of Physicians, a member of the Alpha Omega Alpha national medical honor society and an honoree of Mass General Cancer Center’s “the one hundred” and Stanford’s Medical Staff Awards. She has implemented novel healthcare delivery models in primary care, hospitals and health systems, and she serves on leadership boards for TEDMED, the Coalition to Transform Advanced Care and the American College of Physicians. She has appeared on stage at TEDMED, on NPR, PBS Newshour, and Yahoo News with Katie Couric, and in The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, Elle and The New York Times. Her award-winning podcast, Gravity, explores narratives of suffering. Dr. Kalanithi lives in the San Francisco Bay Area with her daughter, Cady, a second-grader. She uses her dual United States-United Kingdom citizenship to justify her love of scotch eggs. Find her on Twitter at @rocketgirlmd.


Rebecca Soffer photo courtesy of Emma K. Rothenberg-Ware



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The Modern Loss Handbook: An Interactive Guide to Moving Through Grief and Building Your Resilience By Rebecca Soffer Cover Image
ISBN: 9780762474813
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Published: Running Press Adult - May 17th, 2022

When Breath Becomes Air By Paul Kalanithi, Abraham Verghese (Foreword by) Cover Image
By Paul Kalanithi, Abraham Verghese (Foreword by)
ISBN: 9780812988406
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Published: Random House - January 12th, 2016