Today’s dating culture is a minefield. While trying to navigate tricky dos and don’ts and endless, conflicting dating strategies, women are more confused than ever. And, according to Dr. Susan Edelman, women could be hurting themselves and not even know it. But dating doesn’t have to be filled with angst and disappointment anymore. In her new book, Be Your Own Brand of Sexy: A New Sexual Revolution for Women, Dr. Edelman unlocks the mystery of why women don’t get what they want from men and changes the dating game. She shows women how to reclaim their power by learning what works best for them—instead of what they’re programmed to believe is “normal” by today’s culture.

Dr. Susan Edelman is a psychiatrist and an Adjunct Clinical Associate Professor at Stanford.