Gabrielle Blair with Carissa Potter - Ejaculate Responsibly (Ferry Building)

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Gabrielle Blair
in conversation with Carissa Potter


Free In-Person Event • Book Passage (SF Ferry Building)

Thurs., March 9th • 6:00pm PT

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In Ejaculate Responsibly, Gabrielle Blair offers a provocative reframing of the abortion issue in post-Roe America.

In a series of 28 brief arguments, Blair deftly makes the case for moving the abortion debate away from controlling and legislating women’s bodies and instead directs the focus on men’s lack of accountability in preventing unwanted pregnancies.

Highly readable, accessible, funny, and unflinching, Blair builds her argument by walking readers through the basics of fertility (men are 50 times more fertile than women), the unfair burden placed on women when it comes to preventing pregnancy (90% of the birth control market is for women), the wrongheaded stigmas around birth control for men (condoms make sex less pleasurable, vasectomies are scary and emasculating), and the counterintuitive reality that men, who are fertile 100% of the time, take little to no responsibility for preventing pregnancy. 

The result is a compelling and convincing case for placing the responsibility — and burden — of preventing unwanted pregnancies away from women and onto men.

Gabrielle Stanley Blair is the author of Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way To Think About Abortion. She is also the founder of Started in 2006, it has been named a Parenting Website of the Year by Time Magazine, praised as a top parenting blog by The Wall Street JournalParents, and Better Homes & Gardens, and won the Iris Award for Blog of the Year. Her first book, Design Mom: How to Live with Kids, a New York Times Bestseller, was published in 2015 by Artisan. Gabrielle is also a founder of Alt Summit, the blockbuster annual conference for online content creators and creative entrepreneurs, currently in its 13th year. As a thought leader for over 15 years, Gabrielle has written and moderated hundreds of discussions on difficult topics, and interviewed some of the most influential people in the world. Her writing is quoted and shared across the globe daily. Gabrielle and her husband, Ben Blair, have six children — Ralph, Maude, Olive, Oscar, Betty, and Flora June. After six years in Oakland, they moved to a small town in Normandy, France where they are renovating a house from the 1600s. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter @designmom.

Carissa Potter is a human longing for connection. She writes books, makes art & public commissions, and hosts the series Bad At Keeping Secrets (one of Substack’s featured newsletters of 2022) where she talks to other humans about the mess of being alive. Carissa is the founder of People I’ve Loved, the author of three books, one of AdAge’s 24 Most Inspiring People of 2021, and one of Cosmo Magazine’s 24 people making the world a better place. 


Gabrielle Blair photo courtesy of Ben Blair. Carissa Potter photo courtesy of the publisher.



Book Passage Ferry Building
1 Ferry Building
San Francisco, CA 94111
Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion By Gabrielle Stanley Blair Cover Image
ISBN: 9781523523184
Availability: On Our Shelves Now
Published: Workman Publishing Company - October 18th, 2022