Conversations with Authors - Julie Lythcott-Haims

Sunday, June 14th • 7:00pm ET/4:00pm PT

Julie Lythcott-Haims

in conversation with Paula Farmer


Dear Viewers,

I want to thank you for devoting your time this past Sunday to listen to a conversation between me and Paula Farmer. I have always enjoyed coming “up” to Book Passage from my home in Palo Alto, and despite being virtual I felt the love and engagement of the Book Passage community to be as nourishing as ever. And as ever Paula was a terrific partner.

Both How to Be An Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi, and Educated by Tara Westover were in my MUST READ stack for a year, and I’m happy to say I finally checked them off my list. While Kendi’s book is a treatise written by a public scholar and Westover’s is memoir, they have in common the insistence that we have the power to transform our circumstances and our way of being in order to live a life that feels free.

Since you’re all hard core readers I’m going to assume those books may already be on your list (of completed or intended), so I’ll toss out a third, Homegoing, by Yaa Gyasi, published in 2016, which, though a novel, manages to portray the profound impact of slavery and racist policies by tracing the descendants of two Ghanaian sisters, one who remained in Ghana and one who was enslaved and came to America. It is a meditation on cause and effect, and sheds light on how we got to this point of such devastating discrepancies in America.

I hope to be back up at Book Passage in person before long, which is an aspect of “normal” we all yearn for.  But in saying so I want to end with a quote from Roxane Gay who wrote in the New York Times a few weeks back “For black people, normal is the very thing from which we yearn to be free.”

Virtual hugs,



Below, please find links to purchase all of the books recommended by Julie, as well her own books.

How to Be an Antiracist Cover Image
ISBN: 9780525509288
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Published: One World - August 13th, 2019

#1 NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • From the National Book Award–winning author of Stamped from the Beginning comes a “groundbreaking” (Time) approach to understanding and uprooting racism and inequality in our society—and in ourselves.

Educated: A Memoir Cover Image
ISBN: 9780399590504
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Published: Random House - February 20th, 2018

#1 NEW YORK TIMES, WALL STREET JOURNAL, AND BOSTON GLOBE BESTSELLER • One of the most acclaimed books of our time: an unforgettable memoir about a young woman who, kept out of school, leaves her survivalist family and goes on to earn a PhD from Cambridge University

Homegoing Cover Image
ISBN: 9781101971062
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Published: Vintage - May 2nd, 2017

Ghana, eighteenth century: two half sisters are born into different villages, each unaware of the other. One will marry an Englishman and lead a life of comfort in the palatial rooms of the Cape Coast Castle. The other will be captured in a raid on her village, imprisoned in the very same castle, and sold into slavery.

Your Turn: How to Be an Adult Cover Image
ISBN: 9781250137777
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Published: Henry Holt and Co. - April 6th, 2021

New York Times bestselling author Julie Lythcott-Haims is back with a groundbreakingly frank guide to being a grown-up

Real American: A Memoir Cover Image
ISBN: 9781250296733
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Published: St. Martin's Griffin - August 21st, 2018

A fearless debut memoir in which beloved and bestselling How to Raise an Adult author Julie Lythcott-Haims pulls no punches in her recollections of growing up a black woman in America

“Courageous, achingly honest."

—Michelle Alexander, New York Times bestselling author of The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness

How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success Cover Image
ISBN: 9781250093639
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Published: St. Martin's Griffin - August 2nd, 2016

New York Times Bestseller

"Julie Lythcott-Haims is a national treasure. . . . A must-read for every parent who senses that there is a healthier and saner way to raise our children." -Madeline Levine, author of the New York Times bestsellers The Price of Privilege and Teach Your Children Well

Writing Memoir (Lit Starts): A Book of Writing Prompts Cover Image
ISBN: 9781419741388
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Published: Abrams Noterie - February 11th, 2020

A fill-in book from the San Francisco Writers’ Grotto, authors of the bestselling 642 Things series
Focus on a single aspect of the craft of writing with help from the San Francisco Writers’ Grotto.