Constructive Wallowing: How to Beat Bad Feelings by Letting Yourself Have Them ($15.95) is the first book to cut right to the chase, bypassing descriptions of Eastern philosophy and meditation techniques common in many “happiness” books today. Self-esteem expert and certified mental health counselor Tina Gilbertson teaches readers exactly how to accept and feel their feelings with self-compassion for greater emotional health and well-being—while making them laugh from time to time.
Chances are, when it comes to the small losses, irritations, upsets, and annoyances that the vast majority of us suffer daily and weekly, year in and year out, we say, “It could be worse” or “At least I’ve got my health.” In this effort to look on the bright side, we succeed in cutting ourselves off from the understanding and support we need most.
By learning to accept and embrace, rather than suppress, difficult feelings, people can keep their sense of personal power and, better yet, gain greater understanding and ultimately esteem for themselves. Feeling bad can actually lead to feeling better, faster!
Tina Gilbertson holds a master’s degree in Counseling Psychology and is a licensed mental health counselor. In addition to working with adults one-on-one, she teaches assertiveness and self-esteem workshops and classes on goal-setting, decision-making, overcoming anxiety and finding the right career. She has written feature articles on emotional intelligence and health for Portland’s Natural Awakenings magazine, and contributes wisdom as a self-esteem expert for online therapist directory GoodTherapy.org. She lives in Portland, Oregon, and can be found online at TinaGilbertson.com