We were made to love and be loved. Loving ourselves and others is in our genetic code. It’s nothing other than the purpose of our lives—but knowing that doesn’t make it easy to do. We may find it a challenge to love ourselves. We may have a hard time letting love in from others. We’re often afraid of getting hurt. It is also sometimes scary for us to share love with those around us—and love that isn't shared leaves us feeling flat and unfulfilled.
In his new work How to Be an Adult in Love: Letting Love in Safely and Showing It Recklessly ($15.95), David Richo provides the tools here for learning how to love in evolved adult ways—beginning with getting past the barriers that keep us from loving ourselves, then showing how we can learn to open to love others. Richo provides wisdom from Buddhism, psychology, and a range of spiritual traditions, along with a wealth of practices both for avoiding the pitfalls that can occur in love relationships and for enhancing the way love shows up in our lives. He then leads us on to love’s inevitable outcome: developing a heart that loves universally and indiscriminately. This transcendent and unconditional love isn’t just for a heroic few, Richo shows, it’s everyone’s magnificent calling.
David Richo, Ph.D., M.F.T., is psychotherapist, writer, and workshop leader, whose work emphasizes the benefits of mindfulness and loving-kindness in personal growth and emotional well-being. He teaches at a variety of places including Esalen and Spirit Rock Buddhist Center. He is the author of numerous books, including The Five Things We Cannot Change.
How to let love into our lives, and how to express that love to the world at large—the latest from a best-selling author.