What Really Helps: Using Mindfulness and Compassionate Presence to Help, Support, and Encourage Others (Paperback)

By Karen Kissel Wegela, David Richo (Foreword by)
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Most of us, at one time or another, would like to help a friend, family member, or acquaintance through a challenging time. But do we really know how to give meaningful support and guidance? And why do our best efforts at helping others often come up short? Here is a practical guide that will be of special interest to helping professionals—and anyone who wants to make a positive difference in the lives of people they care about.

To be truly helpful to others, Karen Wegela explains, we must begin by focusing on ourselves. We must develop greater awareness, steadiness of mind, fearlessness, and self-compassion. Only then can we extend these qualities to the people we’d like to help. Drawing on her experiences as a psychotherapist and on her longtime study of Buddhist meditation, Wegela emphasizes the benefits of mindfulness, or learning to become fully present in our moment-to-moment experience. Through mindfulness we develop a fearless, compassionate presence in our daily lives—and we become better listeners, take wiser actions, and give more valuable, effective guidance to the people we’d like to help.

About the Author

Karen Kissel Wegela, Ph.D., is a psychologist in private practice and director of the M.A. program in Contemplative Psychotherapy at the Naropa Institute in Boulder, Colorado.

David Richo, PhD, MFT, is a teacher, workshop leader, and psychotherapist in Santa Barbara and San Francisco, California. He combines Jungian, Buddhist, and mythic perspectives in his work. He is the author of numerous other books, including The Five Things We Cannot Change and How to Be an Adult in Love.

Praise For…

“A step-by-step handbook on becoming present to oneself so as to be able to offer meaningful help to friends, relatives, and clients in distress. Written in simple, direct language.”—Publishers  Weekly

Product Details
ISBN: 9781590308806
ISBN-10: 1590308808
Publisher: Shambhala Publications
Publication Date: December 28th, 2010
Pages: 259
Language: English