Ken thinks he and Becky are just having fun together. Becky is already picking out bridesmaid dresses.
Melissa has decided to break up with Tony. Tony thinks Melissa is “the one.”
Are miscommunications like this unavoidable? What’s the best way to end a relationship–or to take it to a more serious level?
Chances are, you’ve heard of “The Talk.” Every romantic relationship comes to the point where things need to be defined or redefined: Do we become romantically exclusive? Is our relationship ready (or not ready) to move to the next level? What are our boundaries and expectations? Is it possible to “just be friends”?
Getting all the cards on the table. Communicating openly and honestly. It sounds like a great idea, right? The tough question is, how do you communicate in a way that significantly benefits you both–and doesn’t leave you dreading those important conversations in the future?
In Define the Relationship, you’ll find everything you need to know about positively defining and redefining your current or future dating relationships. Written in light of the complexities of dating today, this long-needed resource will help you avoid painful and confusing dating dilemmas and experience instead the freedom of well-defined, spiritually grounded, and truly rewarding relationships.
About the Author
Jeramy Clark (M.Div.) serves as pastor of high school ministries at Emmanuel Faith Community Church. His thirteen years of youth ministry experience have taught him invaluable lessons about working with families. He lives in Escondido, California, with his wife, Jerusha, and daughters Jocelyn and Jasmine. Together, Jeramy and Jerusha have written three books, including "I Gave Dating a Chance,"
Jeramy and Jerusha Clark have ministered in churches for a combined twenty-five years. After meeting at The First Evangelical Free Church of Fullerton, where the Clarks both served in youth ministry, they moved to Monument, Colorado, where they worked with students at Tri-Lakes Chapel. Currently, Jeramy, Jerusha, and their two children live in Escondido, California, where Jeramy is the pastor of Life Design Ministries at Emmanuel Faith Community Church. They have coauthored three books on relationships: I Gave Dating a Chance, He's H.O.T., She's H.O.T., and DTR: Define the Relationship, as well as contributed a chapter to NavPress's Five Paths to the Love of Your Life (2005). The Clarks' 2005 work After You Drop Them Off: A Parents' Guide to Student Ministries helps families maximize their children's youth group experience. Jerusha has had three solo projects with NavPress: Every Thought Captive: Battling the Toxic Beliefs That Separate Us from the Life We Crave (2006), Inside a Cutter's Mind: Understanding and Helping Those Who Self-Injure (2007), and The Life You Crave: The Promise of Discernment (2008). Both Jeramy and Jerusha love serving God within the church and through the written word. Jerusha Clark has coauthored four books with her husband, Jeramy, three of which deal with the ever-important topic of opposite-sex relationships. Jerusha published her first solo work with NavPress, Every Thought Captive: Battling the Toxic Beliefs that Separate Us from the Life We Crave, in 2006. She then released Inside a Cutter's Mind: Understanding and Helping Those Who Self-Injure in 2007 and The Life You Crave: The Promise of Discernment in 2008. Her upcoming book, Living Beyond Postpartum Depression: Help and Hope for the Hurting Mom and Those Around Her, will be released in spring of 2010. With Jeramy, a pastor at Emmanuel Faith Community Church, Jerusha thoroughly loves raising Jocelyn and Jasmine, their adorable daughters. Jerusha's ministry passion is to help women more fully glorify and enjoy their God.
“Define the Relationship takes a refreshing approach to dating by shining light on the subtle pitfalls couples face today. In an entertaining, honest, and life-changing way, Jeramy and Jerusha address things such as good communication skills, how to guard emotional as well as sexual purity, and what it means to have a God-centered self. Jeramy and Jerusha Clark fill a huge vacuum in Christian resources on dating by writing this book.”
–Dr. Lori Salierno, speaker, author, and founder of Celebrate Life International
“Define the Relationship is tailor-made for serious-minded, sincere young people who want to build quality long-term relationships. Loaded with examples and experience, Jeramy and Jerusha masterfully walk through how to communicate in relationships at every level–from first dates to final breakups. A valuable resource, not only for dating but also for building strong foundations for communication in marriage.”
–Paul Fleischmann, president of National Network of Youth Ministries
“Jeramy and Jerusha not only have a heart for God, they have a heart for helping young people build healthy relationships. In this helpful book, they offer tips for communication that can set any relationship on the right course. Define the Relationship helps you learn communication skills that lead to honesty, openness, and true intimacy–and that’s the way God desires our relationships to be defined.”
–Laurie Polich, speaker, author, youth ministry professor