Renate Stendhal sweeps out the old myths about bed death, the notion that lesbian couples tend to be too close to maintain sexual desire. Her own story and her talks with counseling clients prove the contrary. Stendhal shows that sex is the natural and continuous outcome of a closeness generated by bold honesty and the capacity to speak and hear intimate secrets. Sharing "shameful" desires and vulnerable fears is what love and sexual passion are made of.
Stendhal teaches simple, effective and thought-provoking lessons for any committed or married couple who wants to keep passion alive beyond the honeymoon phase. Her message: The art of intimate truth-telling is the most effective aphrodisiac of all.
About the Author
Renate Stendhal, born and raised in Germany, is a writer, editor, and translator. She lived in Paris for twenty years as a cultural correspondent for German radio and press. She has translated into German the works of Gertrude Stein, Audre Lorde, Adrienne Rich, and others, and she is the co-author (with Kim Chernin) of "Sex and Other Sacred Games". She is a consultant in creativity and writing in Berkeley, California.
"Renate Stendhal's unique words of wisdom are wonderful, and have an important message for everyone."
—Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon, co-authors of Lesbian/Woman
"Tracking all these mutual quests for honest relationships, Stendhal's small and beautiful volume almost made me wish to be in one myself. I'll keep it handy, should the occasion arise."
—Alix Dobkin, singer/songwriter
"What a compassionate and useful little book, so full of heart and good sense. Renate Stendhal brings her work deep understanding about intimacy that will benefit any couple ready to take the next step in love and passion."
—Carol Queen, Ph.D., author of Exhibitionism for the Sky