It's the parenting guide for parents who thought they no longer needed one for parents who worry as their 20-something kids struggle to grow up; who are saving for retirement but now have to reopen the bank of Mom and Dad; who look forward to downsizing but have a boomerang child living at home again.
And it's the parenting guide that says it's all going to be OK just step back but stay connected, and don t forget to take care of yourself. Kids may be taking longer to graduate from college, start a career, marry, have children, but it's natural. Just as scientists a century ago discovered a new phase in life called adolescence, there's now another developmental stage, emerging adulthood. According to Dr. Jeffrey Arnett, the world's leading authority on emerging adults, and his coauthor, Elizabeth Fishel, author of "Sisters" and mother of two 20-something sons, the time spent in emerging adulthood actually helps kids become happier, healthier grown-ups.
"When Will My Grown-Up Kid Grow Up?" covers every aspect of life for an 18- to 29-year-old, from that first taste of independence at college to that time at the end of the 20s, when the majority of kids are settling down. It explains what grown children are going through intense self-focus, instability, a feeling of being in-between mixed with a breathtaking sense of possibilities and how parents should deal with these changes, from six ways to listen more than you talk, to money 101 (and why never to use money to control your child's life), to troubleshooting their failure to launch, to, finally, the dos and don ts of promoting a successful transition to adulthood.
Because yes, they really will grow up.
About the Author
Jeffrey Jensen Arnett received his Ph.D. in Developmental Psychology from the University of Virginia. He taught at Oglethorpe University in Atlanta, the University of Missouri, and the University of Maryland, where he is currently a Research Associate Professor in the Department of Human Development. He has also served as a Research Associate at the Rush-Presbyterian-St. Luke's Medical Center in Chicago while a Postdoctoral Fellow at the Northwestern University Department of Psychiatry, where he also served on the Committee on Human Development at the University of Chicago. He is currently Editor of the Sage "Journal of Adolescent Research" and is Editor-in-Chief of a four-volume encyclopedia of adolescence currently being developed with Routledge. Within the area of developmental psychology and media, his primary interests include music and adolescence, and he's especially interested in a cultural and international perspective, which he would hope to infuse into the encyclopedia.
Elizabeth Fishel is the author of "Sisters", "Reunion", "I Swore I d Never Do That", and "The Men in Our Lives", and a journalist who has written for "Vogue", "O", "Good Housekeeping", "Parents", "More", "Family Circle", and other magazines and newspapers. She lives in Oakland, California, and is the mother of two 20-somethings.